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Lifting up Cochrane Family…

We lift up the Cochrane Family and all those who loved and shared life with Jimmy. In this time of sorrow, let us find meaningful ways to be the heart and hands of Christ, bringing comfort and compassion to those who are grieving. As we honor his life, let’s also express our gratitude for the many ways Jimmy touched our lives and the life he continues to share with God. Let’s commit to pray, for comfort and thanksgiving!

James “Jimmy” H. Cochrane, Jr departed Newport, the Hokie Nation and his SCV camp unexpectedly on October 24. He was born in Richmond, spent much of his childhood and adult years in Rockville. Jim graduated from the Collegiate Schools, Virginia Tech (Architecture) and the University of Richmond (Transportation Management). He was the ultimate Tech fan, rarely missing a Hokie football or basketball game. When he was not wearing orange or maroon, he might be found in Civil War battalion attire or a Scottish kilt. He was pre-deceased by his parents J. Harwood Cochrane and Louise “Lulu” Blanks Cochrane, and his sister Suzanne Austell Martin. He is survived by his sister Judith Cochrane Hines, seven nieces and nephews, twelve great nieces and nephews and fiance’ Dale Hawthorne Harper. Jim worked at Overnite Transportation, Highway Express, then owned and operated a TourTime America motorcoach franchise.

He served on the boards of the Richmond Ski Club, the Museum & White House of the Confederacy, Huguenot Springs Cemetery and the American Frontier Culture Museum. Jim was fiercely proud of his Cochrane Scottish heritage and his brotherhood in the Kappa Alpha Order. He was well versed in American and military history. He was a long time member and Commander of the J.E.B. Stuart camp of the Sons of Confederate Veterans, coordinating and commanding numerous reenactments throughout Virginia and the south. He dedicated his life to civil war history and the battlefields of the Shenandoah Valley will forever be a part of his legacy. He retired to Wintergreen and subsequently Newport to be near his beloved Blacksburg.

He was larger than life and will be greatly missed by his family and friends in the Richmond Ski Club, the Knibbs Battery cannon battalion, Kappa Alpha and at Virginia Tech. There will be a memorial service at 11am Wednesday 11/6/24 at Woody Funeral Home at 1771 North Parham Rd Richmond, Va 23229. A private interment will follow. A Celebration of Life will follow a cannon salute at Huguenot Springs Cemetery on a later date.

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See You at the Corner of Emmaus and Grove

Learning to See: Join us this Thursday, Oct. 24 at 6-8 p.m.

Just days earlier, they had witnessed Jesus’ brutal death in Jerusalem, leaving them overwhelmed with grief and uncertainty. Two of His followers, one named Cleopas and the other unnamed, now walk the road to Emmaus, their minds swirling with questions. How could this have happened? What if everything they believed was wrong? What next? Along the way, they find themselves hosting a stranger, and as they walk, they speak repeatedly of the burden of failure. As the sun begins to set, stillness—the great amplifier of anxiety—settles in. Broken hearts break bread together, and then it happens—the stillness is broken with the miraculous. Eyes are opened, the presence of the risen Christ is made known, and the presumed hosts find themselves invited yet again into a future wide open.

The Emmaus Road is long, and while you won’t see it on any map, it intersects at every corner in the city we call home. Just after the pandemic, Alcoholics Anonymous began meeting weekly in the “Blue Room” of the little church at the corner of Emmaus and Grove. There, each week, just after the sun goes down, the brokenhearted gather together and inevitably find themselves less alone than they thought they were. Stories of brokenness, despair, healing, and transformation are shared in that space. It’s on the road to Emmaus the future is resurrected, one broken heart at a time, one step at a time.

This Thursday, I’d like to invite you to the corner of Emmaus and Grove. We’ll gather together with one of the leaders of the AA meeting that takes place every Wednesday in the Blue Room. We’ll hear stories, and perhaps some of us will even feel called to share some of our own. Perhaps, in the sharing of stories and also in the stillness—the great amplifiers of God’s presence—we’ll all catch a glimpse of a resurrected future?  Perhaps we, each and every one of us as guests, might leave that place more resolved to keep walking, one step at a time, toward that future together?

I hope to see you there.

Yours in Christ,

Rev. Sterling W. Severns
Pastor

Details for Thursday, October 24, 2024:

  • Time: 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM
  • Location: Blue Room, Tabernacle Church
  • Dinner: Pizza and salad provided
  • RSVP: Please e-mail communications@tbcrichmond.org
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Reflection Guide: Romans 6 and the Pattern of Dying to Self

Scripture: Romans 6:1-11, Sermon by Rev. Sterling W. Severns









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Reflection Questions





1. The Continuous Nature of Spiritual Growth





The sermon emphasized that spiritual growth is not a one-time event but a continuous journey. Baptism represents the ongoing pattern of dying to our false selves and rising with Christ, over and over. Paul calls us into a lifelong relationship with God that demands daily surrender to grace.





Quotes:





    

  • “Grace isn’t just for our past sins, but for the ongoing process of transformation in our lives.” — From the sermon
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  • “Spiritual growth is a journey, not a moment. It’s an ongoing invitation to trust in grace.” — From the sermon
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Reflection Questions:





    

  • Where in your life do you feel called to surrender more fully to ongoing spiritual growth?
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  • How might viewing your faith as a continuous journey change the way you approach daily challenges?
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2. Baptism: A Continuous Journey, Not a One-Time Event





Baptism symbolizes more than a one-time moment of salvation. It’s an invitation to participate repeatedly in the death and resurrection of Christ. Paul teaches that we don’t leave behind sin in a single act, but we live in a daily pattern of surrender and renewal.





Quotes:





    

  • “Baptism isn’t a ritual of finality. It’s the starting point of an ongoing journey with God’s grace.” — From the sermon
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Reflection Questions:





    

  • How does your baptism (or your understanding of baptism) inform your current spiritual practices?
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  • In what ways can you more intentionally participate in the “death and resurrection” pattern of spiritual growth in your everyday life?
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3. Sin as Disconnection from God





Sin is not just a list of wrong behaviors, but an expression of our disconnection from God. It’s a failure to trust in God’s love and provision. Paul invites us to go deeper than surface-level morality and look at the spiritual root of sin—our distance from God.





Quotes:





    

  • “Sin is not about being bad; it is about being disconnected from God, and grace is the connection that heals and restores us.” — Greg Boyle
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Reflection Questions:





    

  • How do you typically understand sin in your own life? Do you tend to focus more on behaviors or the deeper issues of trust and disconnection from God?
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  • What steps can you take to reconnect with God in areas where you feel distant or mistrustful?
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4. Idolatry and Fear-Based Living





The root of sin is a failure to trust in God’s sufficiency, leading us to live out of fear. We create idols—control, success, or security—when we feel uncertain. Living in fear keeps us from relying on God’s provision and invites us to hold onto false securities.





Quotes:





    

  • “The root of sin is our failure to trust in God’s sufficiency. Instead of trusting God’s provision, we rely ultimately on ourselves.” — Mark Biddle, Missing the Mark
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Reflection Questions:





    

  • What idols (e.g., control, success, security) do you find yourself clinging to in times of uncertainty?
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  • How can you shift from a fear-based way of living to a life more rooted in trust and surrender to God’s provision?
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5. The Tug of Grace: A Moment-to-Moment Decision





We are continually pulled by fear, the root of all sin. The tug of grace is what gets our attention, but it’s not enough to keep us from being pulled under. It’s the invitation to decide: will we allow fear to drown our true selves, or will we let go of the rope, die to self, and let God’s grace drown our false selves?





Quotes:





    

  • “The tug of grace is God’s invitation. It’s not about resisting fear through our strength but about letting go and trusting in grace.” — From the sermon
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Reflection Questions:





    

  • Can you identify moments in your life where fear has pulled you away from trust in God? How did the tug of grace invite you to respond?
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  • What would it look like to let go of the rope and fully surrender to grace in a specific area of your life?
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6. Dying to Self and Living in Christ





Paul teaches that true spiritual life comes through repeated death to self. We are called to continually surrender our false selves—our fears, pride, and need for control—and trust in God’s resurrection power. This ongoing death and resurrection is what allows us to live fully in Christ.





Quotes:





    

  • “We are called to ‘just keep drowning.’ It is in dying to our false selves that we can truly live.” — From the sermon
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Reflection Questions:





    

  • What aspects of your false self (e.g., pride, control, fear) are you being called to surrender in this season of life?
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  • How have you experienced spiritual resurrection after moments of dying to self? What new life emerged from those experiences?
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Quotes for Further Reflection





    

  1. “Grace isn’t just for our past sins, but for the ongoing process of transformation in our lives.” — From the sermon
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  2. “Sin is not about being bad; it is about being disconnected from God, and grace is the connection that heals and restores us.” — Greg Boyle
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  3. “We are called to ‘just keep drowning.’ It is in dying to our false selves that we can truly live.” — From the sermon
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  4. “The root of sin is our failure to trust in God’s sufficiency. Instead of trusting God’s provision, we rely ultimately on ourselves.” — Mark Biddle, Missing the Mark
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  5. “When we live out of fear, we are essentially choosing self-reliance over grace, and in the end, that will always pull us under.” — From the sermon
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We were the only two in line, strangers waiting for the pharmacy to reopen. It took her little or no time to begin to openly share her story with me. As she spoke about her journey through illness and healing, her hands told the story as much as her words.





She gently touched her head, right where the tumor had been, explaining how peace first entered her life—something she grasped intellectually after the surgery, as she processed what she had been through. 





Then, she placed her hand over her heart, describing how that peace deepened, becoming something she could feel more fully. 





But it was when she placed both hands on her stomach that her voice softened, and she said, “But now, I know it here.” This was peace she carried in her gut, a knowing that had grown through suffering, endurance, and the long journey now behind her. And she couldn’t keep it to herself—the peace had become too real, too profound, not to share.





Her testimony brought to life the very words of Paul in Romans 5. He speaks of suffering producing endurance, endurance shaping character, and character leading to a hope that does not disappoint. There are no platitudes here—no quick fix for pain. Paul is sharing the journey that he, and so many others, have walked: through suffering, into endurance, and into a hope that transforms us from the inside out. This is not about earning anything—it’s about receiving the grace of God, who walks with us and delivers us through every trial. God is with us every step of the way.





As we sang together at the end of last Sunday’s sermon,





“Through many dangers, toils and snares,
I have already come; ’Tis grace hath brought me safe thus far,
And grace will lead me home.”





The suffering we endure becomes the very path through which God leads us into hope. This journey isn’t about mere survival—it’s about discovering a peace so deep, a hope so life-altering, that we are never the same.





I invite you to take some time this week to reflect on these powerful truths. If you feel called to explore further, our reflection guide is available on the website as a helpful tool to guide your prayers and thoughts. It offers an opportunity to dive deeper into how God may be transforming your experiences of suffering into endurance and hope. 





Thanks be to God for the gift of grace……leading us home.





Yours in Christ, 





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Adult Reflection Guide: Romans 3:21-31
		

		

			









Sermon on Romans 3:21-31      Rev. Sterling W. Severns    October 7, 2024






Romans 3:21-31 (The Message )










1. God Sets Things Right, Not Us





Paul’s letter to the Romans reminds us that we don’t “set things right” by our actions—God does it for us through grace. In the sermon, you mentioned how “God isn’t waiting for us to get things right. He already took care of that on the cross.”





    

  • Question: How does it feel to know that God’s grace comes as a gift and isn’t something we have to earn? Can you think of times when you’ve tried to earn God’s love, only to realize it was already yours?
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2. Walking at a Human Pace





You talked about how Jesus walked at a human pace—about 2-3 miles per hour. Not in a rush, but always moving forward in grace. You said, “Discipleship happens one step at a time. We’re walking with Jesus, not running a race.”





    

  • Question: Are there moments in your life when you’ve felt the need to slow down and walk more closely with Jesus? How might walking at “God’s pace” change how we approach our faith?
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3. Temptation to Climb Higher Ground





In the sermon, you mentioned how easy it is to think we’ve made it to higher ground spiritually. You said, “We think we’re walking with God, but sometimes all we’re doing is climbing up to a pedestal.” This can lead to a sense of superiority or separation from others.





    

  • Question: Have you ever found yourself feeling spiritually “above” others, even unintentionally? How can we guard against slipping into self-righteousness in our daily walk with God?
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4. Feet on the Ground, Not on a Pedestal





You shared that God wants us to have our feet on the ground—not up on a pedestal, but also not buried in the dirt of shame. “God is always putting us back in our place—not to knock us down, but to walk with us back home.”





    

  • Question: What does it mean to have our “feet on the ground” spiritually? How can this help us stay humble while also accepting God’s love and grace?
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5. We’re All Walking Each Other Home





You referenced the phrase, “We’re all just walking each other home,” showing how, in the Christian life, we’re not on this journey alone. We’re meant to walk with others in grace.





    

  • Question: How can we support each other as we walk this journey of faith together? Can you share an example of a time someone walked with you through a difficult season in life?
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6. Justification: God Aligns Us with His Love





You described justification like aligning a Word document—God takes what’s out of place in our lives and brings it back into line with His love. “It’s God saying, ‘We’re good’—not because of what we’ve done, but because of who He is.”





    

  • Question: In what areas of your life do you need God to bring you back into alignment with His love? How does knowing that God has already made things right change how you live day to day?
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Closing Reflection: In what ways does understanding God’s grace more deeply affect your relationships—with God, with others, and with yourself?





Quotes for Reflection





    

  1. “Grace is not a thing. It is not a substance that can be measured or counted. It is the personal presence of the living God.”

      

    • N.T. Wright
      This quote emphasizes that grace is the dynamic, personal presence of God in our lives, not something we earn or quantify. How does this reshape your understanding of grace?
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  2. “The greatest mystery of the gospel is not our sin, but God’s unrelenting love, which embraces us in our imperfection and calls us beloved.”

      

    • Richard Rohr
      Rohr reminds us that it’s God’s love, not our failures, that defines us. Reflect on how this truth impacts your sense of worth and relationship with the Divine.
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  3. “Justification by faith is about God putting the world back to rights, beginning with us. It’s about reordering our lives in alignment with the Creator’s love.”

      

    • James Dunn
      Dunn’s insight invites us to see justification as more than personal salvation—it’s the beginning of a wider restoration. How might this understanding impact how you interact with others and the world?
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  4. “The way of Jesus is the way of the cross. It is a call to downward mobility, to humility, to solidarity with those who are least in the eyes of the world.”

      

    • Henri Nouwen
      Nouwen’s words remind us that following Jesus involves walking the path of humility. How does this challenge you in your relationships and lifestyle?
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  5. “To believe in justification by grace is to accept that we are constantly being forgiven, renewed, and invited to start again—this is the journey of faith.”

      

    • Rowan Williams
      Williams highlights that grace is an ongoing process of renewal. How does the idea of continual forgiveness and renewal change how you approach your daily spiritual walk?
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Taste & See: Thurs., Oct.  3, 6-8 PM
		

		

			

Join us for “Taste and See: Around the Table”, a monthly intergenerational gathering held in the sanctuary, where we share a meal, build connections, and explore the life Jesus is offering us. 





Through fun, purposeful activities like storytelling, drawing, and shared discussions, we’ll experience faith and community in fresh ways.Each month offers something unique, fostering meaningful relationships and laying the groundwork for future discipleship in our church. Whether you come with family, friends, or on your own, “Taste and See” promises an evening of laughter, reflection, and growth. Come ready to share, eat, and be surprised by how God is moving in our lives and in our community.





It’s super helpful for the staff to know how many to expect. Please RSVP to communications@tbcrichmond.org. 

























		


		
			
 





	

		

					

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Adult Reflection Guide: Romans 3:1-20
		

		

			

Welcome!





We invite you to take some time to reflect on key themes from our recent sermon on Romans 3. Paul’s message in this chapter challenges us to look honestly at our own imperfections and embrace the transformative grace of God. Whether you choose to reflect on one or all of the themes, this guide is here to support your personal or group study. The goal isn’t perfection but to create space for spiritual reflection and growth.





Sermon can be found at marker 42:56














Sermon Summary





1. The Reality of Sin (Romans 3:10-12)
Paul reminds us that “there is no one righteous, not even one.” This statement isn’t about condemning us, but about leveling the playing field—no one can claim perfection. All of us are in need of God’s grace. This realization sets the stage for transformation, which begins when we acknowledge our own brokenness.





2. Judgment and Projection (Romans 3:9-10)
Paul critiques the human tendency to judge others while ignoring our own failures. Judgment often stems from insecurity, as we try to shift the focus away from our own shortcomings. Paul calls for humility—an honest self-assessment instead of focusing on others’ mistakes.





3. Grace as the Foundation for Transformation (Romans 3:20-24)
Paul emphasizes that the law was not given for us to boast about following it perfectly. Instead, it reveals how far we fall short, making room for grace. True transformation begins when we stop relying on our own righteousness and embrace God’s grace as the foundation for change.





4. God’s Faithfulness (Romans 3:3-4)
Even when humans are unfaithful, God remains faithful. This promise reassures us that our failures do not diminish God’s love or commitment to us. Knowing this allows us to confront our brokenness with honesty, knowing God’s grace will always meet us.





5. The Treasure in Clay Jars (2 Corinthians 4:7)
Paul’s metaphor of “treasure in clay jars” reminds us that we are fragile and imperfect, yet we carry something precious—God’s love and grace. Rather than disqualifying us, our flaws become opportunities for God’s power to shine through us.





6. Transformation Starts with Honesty
Paul teaches that true transformation starts with transparency. We don’t need to pretend we have it all together. Instead, when we admit our need for God’s grace, that’s when real healing and change begin.










Reflection Questions





These questions are designed to help you think more deeply about the themes from the sermon. Whether you reflect on them individually or with a group, allow them to spark meaningful conversation.





Facing the Truth: In the sermon, we heard the famous line from A Few Good Men: “You can’t handle the truth.” When faced with difficult truths about yourself, how do you typically respond? Do you tend to confront those truths or avoid them? Why do you think that is?





Judging Others vs. Judging Ourselves: Paul talks about our tendency to judge others while ignoring our own faults. How often do you catch yourself being critical of others instead of reflecting on your own struggles? How might shifting your focus to self-reflection change your relationships?





Paul’s Indictment and Our Hearing: Paul’s words might sound harsh or judgmental at first, but he’s speaking from a place of humility, acknowledging his own brokenness. How do you think your personal experiences or insecurities shape the way you hear challenging messages, whether from Scripture or others? How might it change your perspective to hear those words as coming from someone who is “in the mix” with you, rather than judging you from above?





The Nature of Sin: The sermon described sin as “missing the mark” and how it puts us out of sync with God. In what areas of your life do you feel out of sync with God? What would it look like for you to realign your heart and actions with God’s purposes?





God’s Faithfulness: Paul reassures us that even when we are unfaithful, God remains faithful. Where in your life are you struggling to trust in God’s faithfulness? How does this promise challenge or encourage you as you face uncertainty or failure?





Breaking the Cycle of Judgmentalism: We learned that judgmentalism often comes from a place of insecurity or self-loathing. How have you seen this cycle play out in your own life? What steps can you take to break free from judgmental thinking and move toward grace?





Sin and Projection: The sermon explored how we sometimes project our own discomfort by focusing on others’ faults. In what ways have you seen this dynamic in your own relationships? How might embracing vulnerability instead of judgment deepen your connections with others?





Transformation and Honesty: Transformation begins with an honest appraisal of our limitations and failures. Is there an area in your life where you’ve been avoiding the truth about yourself? What would it take for you to bring that into the light and experience God’s grace for healing?





Carrying God’s Treasure: Paul’s metaphor of “treasure in clay jars” was highlighted in the sermon. How do you see God’s grace shining through your own imperfections and weaknesses? What might it look like to embrace your vulnerability as a strength?





The Weight of Sin and the Law: We heard that the law reveals our need for grace rather than giving us a means to boast about our righteousness. How has your understanding of the balance between law and grace evolved? How does this shift in understanding impact how you live out your faith day to day?





Receiving Grace in Community: The sermon emphasized that none of us are exempt from the human condition of sin. How does recognizing your shared brokenness with others affect the way you engage with your community? How might it change the way you receive or extend grace?










Quotes for Reflection





Here are a few quotes to ponder as you reflect on the sermon’s themes. Use them as conversation starters or points of meditation.





    

  • “There is no one righteous, not even one.” (Romans 3:10)
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  • “Judgmentalism is often rooted in our own insecurities. When we judge others, we are projecting our discomfort with our own sins.” — Richard Rohr
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  • “Even when we are unfaithful, God remains faithful.” (Romans 3:3-4)
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  • “Transformation begins with honesty—admitting our brokenness is the first step to experiencing God’s healing.” — N.T. Wright
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  • “The principle of Transformation reminds us that nothing, no one, no situation is immune from the transforming love of God.”  – Desmond Tutu
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  • “The law shows us our flaws, but grace enables us to grow beyond them.” — Charles Talbert
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  • “We carry this treasure in fragile clay jars, but it is in our weakness that God’s power shines through.” (2 Corinthians 4:7)
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We hope this guide prompts meaningful reflection as you explore Romans 3 in your personal journey or with others in your community. Let this be a reminder that God’s grace meets us where we are and leads us toward transformation, not through perfection, but through honesty and love.





Additional Reflection Guides for Children & Youth:







Going Deeper: Exploration of Romans 3:1-20 with your Teen









Going Deeper: Exploration of Romans 3:1-20 with Your Children







Sources Cited





    

  • Wright, N.T. Paul: A Biography
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  • Rohr, Richard. Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life
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  • Talbert, Charles H. Romans: A Theological Commentary on the Bible
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  • Peterson, Eugene. The Message (Paraphrase of Romans 3:10)
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Going Deeper: Exploration of Romans 3:1-20 with your Teen
		

		

			

Welcome, Parents!





Conversations about faith with teenagers can be unpredictable, but they can also be moments of deep connection. This guide is designed to help you navigate those conversations about Romans 3 with your teen in a way that feels open and approachable. The goal isn’t to come up with the perfect answers or force deep talks—it’s about making space for reflection, questions, and growth at their own pace.





We encourage you to use this guide flexibly. Some teens might want to talk more openly with a trusted adult or family friend, while others might prefer private reflection. Here are a few ways to get creative with the guide:





    

  • Pick just one question to explore, and let the conversation unfold naturally.
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  • Encourage your teen to journal or draw if they prefer expressing themselves that way.
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  • If there’s a Jesus Follower your teen looks up to, consider inviting them to join the conversation.
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Let your teen take the lead in how and when these reflections happen, and don’t be surprised if the deepest conversations come when you least expect them.





Key Themes from the Sermon





1. We All Make Mistakes (Romans 3:10)
Paul’s message in Romans 3 is simple: nobody’s perfect. We all mess up, and that’s okay. God isn’t waiting for us to be flawless. What matters is being honest about our mistakes and trusting that God will help us move forward.





2. God’s Treasure in Us (2 Corinthians 4:7)
Paul says that we carry God’s love like treasure inside us—even though we’re far from perfect. It’s through our flaws and imperfections that God’s love shines. Instead of hiding our struggles, we can embrace them, knowing that God still calls us valuable.





3. God’s Faithfulness, Even When We Fall (Romans 3:3-4)
Paul reminds us that even when we’re unfaithful, God is still faithful. Our failures don’t change God’s love for us. God’s love and grace are always present, no matter how many times we fall short. Transformation begins when we accept that God’s faithfulness is bigger than our mistakes.





Reflection Questions for Teens





These questions are designed to help teens explore their identity, faith, and the idea of grace in their own lives. Encourage them to reflect privately or engage in conversation—whichever feels more comfortable.





    

  • Sin and Identity: We talked about how sin makes us feel “out of sync” with God and with ourselves. Can you think of a time when you felt out of place, whether with friends, at home, or even in your own skin? How did that make you feel? What do you think God would say to you in those moments?
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  • Peer Pressure and Judgment: Paul talks about how we sometimes point fingers at others to avoid facing our own mistakes. Have you ever felt pressure to judge someone else, or maybe even judged yourself too harshly? How could practicing grace, both for yourself and others, change how you approach those situations?
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  • Sharing God’s Love Through Imperfections: Paul says we carry God’s love in “clay jars,” meaning we aren’t perfect, but we still hold something valuable. How do you think God can use your imperfections—like your struggles or weaknesses—to help others? How can you embrace those parts of yourself?
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  • God’s Grace in Relationships: God’s grace allows us to love ourselves and others more fully. What are some ways you could show grace to someone you find difficult to love? How could showing grace strengthen your relationships with others and with God?
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Spiritual Practices for Teens





Here are two spiritual practices—one for private reflection and one for family engagement—that encourage teens to think about their identity and connection to God.





1. Journaling (Private Reflection)





Encourage your teen to use journaling as a way to process their thoughts and emotions. This can be a powerful tool for personal reflection, especially when dealing with issues of identity, mistakes, and grace.





How to Do It:





    

  • Set aside time for quiet reflection. Let your teen choose how often they’d like to journal—whether it’s daily, weekly, or whenever they feel like it.
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  • Prompt them with these questions to help guide their journaling:

      

    • What’s one mistake I made recently that’s been weighing on me? How can I move forward?
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    • How can I see God’s love showing up in my life, even through my struggles?
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    • Where do I need to show grace to myself or others?
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This can be a private practice, where your teen has the freedom to explore their thoughts without needing to share them right away.





2. Gratitude Walk (Family or Group Activity)





Taking a walk together as a family or with a close friend/mentor can create a space for casual, meaningful conversations. This practice helps everyone slow down and become aware of God’s presence in everyday life.





How to Do It:





    

  • Take a walk outside together—whether in your neighborhood, a local park, or even in your backyard.
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  • As you walk, take turns pointing out things you’re grateful for. It could be something you see in nature, a good moment from the week, or a simple observation.
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  • Afterward, gather together and say a short prayer of thanks: “God, thank you for all the things we noticed today. Help us carry that sense of gratitude and awareness with us throughout the week.”
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This practice allows for both conversation and quiet reflection, without the pressure to dive deep into intense topics unless the moment feels right.





Conclusion





The goal here isn’t to force conversations or expect deep reflection all at once. Instead, it’s about creating opportunities for your teen to engage with these questions at their own pace—whether through private reflection or in the company of trusted family and friends. As you guide them in building a “rule of life,” let these moments unfold naturally and remember that every step, no matter how small, is part of the journey.





Additional Reflection Guides:







Adult Reflection Guide: Romans 3:1-20









Going Deeper: Exploration of Romans 3:1-20 with Your Children



		


		
			
 





	

		

					

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Going Deeper: Exploration of Romans 3:1-20 with Your Children
		

		

			

Dear Parents:





Faith conversations with children can be full of wonder and curiosity. This guide is here to help you continue—or start—those conversations with your child about the big ideas we’ve been reflecting on Romans 3:1-20. The goal isn’t to arrive at perfect answers but to encourage your child to ask questions, reflect, and engage creatively. We want these conversations to be a fun and meaningful part of your family’s daily life.





As your family begins to build a “rule of life”—a shared rhythm that makes space for God—remember that this is a journey, not a sprint. You don’t have to use the whole guide at once. Here are some ideas to help spark creativity:





    

  • Pick just one question to explore this week.
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  • Invite your child to respond through drawing or storytelling.
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  • Think of a Jesus Follower your child enjoys spending time with. Maybe they can join in a conversation or share their thoughts.
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Let’s take this journey one step at a time and enjoy the process!





Key Themes from the Sermon





1. Everyone Makes Mistakes (Romans 3:10)
We all make mistakes, and no one is perfect—that’s something Paul reminds us of in Romans 3. It’s okay to mess up. God knows we aren’t perfect, and He loves us no matter what. The important thing is to be honest when we make mistakes and trust that God will always help us start fresh.





2. God’s Treasure in Us (2 Corinthians 4:7)
Paul says that we carry God’s love like a treasure inside us. Even though we aren’t perfect, we are still very special to God. Like a clay jar with cracks, it’s sometimes through our mistakes that God’s love shines through us. God made us to share His love with the world, even when we don’t feel perfect.





3. We Are Loved Even When We Mess Up (Romans 3:3-4)
Paul also reminds us that when we aren’t faithful, God is still faithful. God’s love doesn’t depend on us getting everything right. Even when we make mistakes, God is always ready to forgive us and love us through it.





Reflection Questions for Children





These questions are meant to be fun, simple, and open-ended. Let your child share their thoughts and ideas. Feel free to add some hands-on activities like drawing or storytelling to make the experience more engaging.





    

  • God’s Treasure in Us: We learned that God’s love is like a treasure we carry inside us, even though we aren’t perfect. Can you think of something special you love that you’d want to share with a friend? How can you share God’s love with others this week?

      

    • Activity Idea: Draw a picture of a “clay jar” and talk about what treasures (like love, kindness, or friendship) God has placed in your heart.
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  • Missing the Mark: Sin was explained as “missing the mark,” like aiming for something but not hitting it. Can you think of a time you tried to do something right but it didn’t go the way you planned? What did you learn from that? How do you think God feels about you when you make mistakes?
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  • Feeling Loved by God: We sang Father Abraham in Sunday school, and it reminds us that we’re all part of God’s family. How does it feel to know you are loved by God, even when you make mistakes? What’s one way you can show someone else that they are loved by God too?
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  • Making Mistakes and Being Forgiven: Everyone makes mistakes, and that’s okay! Can you think of a time when you made a mistake and someone forgave you? How did that feel? Remember, God forgives us too, and He helps us start fresh every time.
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Spiritual Practice: Create a “Treasure Jar”





This week’s practice is hands-on and creative, designed to help children understand that they carry God’s love, even when they don’t feel perfect.





How to Do It:





    

  • Get a simple jar (or make one from paper) and label it “Treasure Jar.”
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  • Throughout the week, encourage your child to put slips of paper in the jar with one thing they’ve done to show God’s love to others. It could be sharing a toy, helping a friend, or saying something kind.
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  • At the end of the week, open the jar together and celebrate all the ways God’s love has shone through them.
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  • Finish with a simple prayer: “God, thank you for helping us share your love with others. Even when we make mistakes, we know your love is always with us.”
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Conclusion





Remember, these conversations are meant to be enjoyable and part of your family’s growing rhythm. Take it slow—there’s no need to rush through all the questions or activities at once. The important thing is creating space for your child to reflect and express their faith in their own way. As you build this “rule of life” together, celebrate the small moments and enjoy the journey.





Additional Reflection Guides on Romans 3:1-20







Going Deeper: Exploration of Romans 3:1-20 with your Teen









Adult Reflection Guide: Romans 3:1-20



		


		
			
 





	

		

			
				

					
											
				


					

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Sermon Reflections: The Destructive Power of Judgmentalism
		

		

			

The Destructive Power of Judgmentalism: Romans 2:1-16 










Sermon: September 22, 2024





Romans 2:1-16: The Destructive Power of Judgmentalism





Going Deeper










Understanding God’s Judgment and Kindness in Romans 2





In Romans 2, Paul confronts the tendency to judge others while failing to recognize one’s own sins. Theologian Charles H. Talbert points out that Paul is addressing a primarily Jewish audience who might feel superior to Gentiles because of their knowledge of the law. However, Paul makes it clear that knowledge alone does not justify anyone before God. Instead, it’s the transformation of the heart and actions that matters (Smyth & Helwys Bible Commentary: Romans, Charles H. Talbert, p. 52).





Paul’s emphasis on God’s kindness leading to repentance (Romans 2:4) is not a sign of leniency, but an opportunity for change. The kindness of God is meant to transform, not to condone continued disobedience. Talbert describes this kindness as an invitation to a “radical life-change,” where one stops depending on outward observance of the law and instead focuses on a life transformed by God’s love and grace.







Reflection:





    

  • How do we, like Paul’s audience, sometimes depend on our religious knowledge or practices to justify ourselves?
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  • In what ways is God’s kindness inviting you to a deeper transformation?
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The Hypocrisy of Judgmentalism





N.T. Wright, in his biography of Paul, explains that Paul’s concern is not just with overt acts of judgment, but with the underlying hypocrisy. For Paul, the real issue is not about who is ‘in’ and who is ‘out,’ but about the state of the heart. Wright emphasizes that God’s judgment is impartial and based on truth, regardless of one’s background or identity (Paul: A Biography, N.T. Wright, p. 189).





Paul’s challenge is to both Jews and Gentiles to move beyond a superficial observance of the law and to embrace the deeper work of the Spirit. He points out that those who judge others are guilty of the same things they condemn. The only path forward is humility and repentance, acknowledging that we all stand in need of God’s mercy.







Reflection:





    

  • Where in your life do you see a gap between what you say you believe and how you live?
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  • How might God be calling you to close that gap?
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The Law Written on Our Hearts





A crucial part of Paul’s argument in Romans 2 is that true obedience is a matter of the heart, not just external adherence to the law. A. Katherine Grieb highlights that for Paul, the real ‘circumcision’ is not physical, but spiritual—circumcision of the heart (Romans: A Theological Commentary on the Bible, A. Katherine Grieb, p. 54). This internal transformation is available to both Jews and Gentiles, making it clear that God’s judgment is based on inner transformation and not just outward compliance.





Grieb explains that this “circumcision of the heart” is an act of the Holy Spirit, transforming believers from the inside out. It represents a new way of belonging to God that transcends ethnic and cultural boundaries. This challenges us to reflect on the ways we might rely on external markers of faith rather than seeking the inward renewal that God desires.







Reflection:





    

  • In what ways have you relied on external practices or traditions to define your faith?
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  • How might God be inviting you to experience a deeper, heart-level transformation?
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God’s Transformative Love: Moving Beyond Judgmentalism





Richard Rohr talks about how Paul’s message isn’t just about following rules or judging who’s right and wrong. Instead, it’s about how God’s love invites us to be changed from the inside out. In Romans 2, Paul warns that when we judge others, we’re often blind to our own faults. Rohr reminds us that God isn’t focused on punishing or rewarding us based on our behavior. God wants us to experience a deeper transformation—a change in our hearts that helps us see ourselves and others through the lens of grace (In the Footsteps of St. Paul, Richard Rohr).





Paul is inviting us to stop focusing on what’s wrong with others and, instead, allow God to work within us. This means letting go of our tendency to judge and embracing a new way of living—one that is grounded in love, compassion, and humility. When we do this, we can experience the radical life-change that Paul talks about in Romans 2, where our hearts are transformed and we become more like Christ.







Reflection Questions:





    

  • How can you allow God’s love to change your perspective on others, especially those you are tempted to judge?
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  • In what areas of your life do you sense God inviting you to let go of judgmental attitudes and embrace transformation?
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  • How might seeing yourself and others through God’s eyes of grace change the way you interact with people?
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The Bigger Picture of God’s Plan





N.T. Wright explains that Paul’s message in Romans isn’t just about individual salvation; it’s part of a much bigger story of God’s plan to renew all creation. He emphasizes that God’s judgment in Romans 2 is not about punishing individuals, but about holding humanity accountable for how we’ve failed to live out our calling as image-bearers of God. God’s purpose has always been to bring about new creation through a transformed people, and this begins with us (Into the Heart of Romans: A Deep Dive into Paul’s Greatest Letter, N.T. Wright, p. 74).





Paul reminds us that judging others distracts us from our own failures to live as God intended. Instead of pointing fingers, we are called to reflect God’s love and grace in the world, participating in the restoration of creation that God envisions. This means recognizing that we are all part of the problem and all invited to be part of the solution through God’s transformative love.







Reflection Questions:





    

  • How does seeing God’s plan as bigger than individual salvation change the way you read Romans 2?
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  • In what ways can you participate in God’s plan for renewal and restoration, starting in your own community?
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  • How might embracing your role as an image-bearer of God impact how you treat others, especially those you are tempted to judge?
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The Trap of Judgmentalism





In the sermon, we talked about how easy it is to fall into the trap of judging others. Paul warns us in Romans 2:1 that when we judge, we are often condemning ourselves, projecting our own insecurities onto others. Judgmentalism is a form of hypocrisy that isolates us from experiencing God’s grace and truth. Instead of focusing on others’ faults, we are invited to examine our own hearts and seek God’s transformation. 





Reflection Questions:







    

  • Can you think of a time when you judged someone harshly, only to later realize you were struggling with a similar issue? What did God reveal to you in that experience?
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  • How does judgmentalism create barriers between you and others? What might it look like to replace judgment with curiosity or compassion?
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  • What fears or insecurities might be at the root of your judgmental attitudes? How is God inviting you to address these today?
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A Toddler in the Parking Lot: An Illustration of God’s Love





During the sermon, we reflected on a story of a toddler running away from his mother’s hand, unaware of the danger around him. This story illustrates how we often pull away from God’s guidance, thinking we know better. Like a loving parent, God doesn’t force us to stay close but continues to pursue us, ready to guide us back to safety. When we finally choose to stop running, we can take God’s hand and trust in divine guidance, experiencing the true freedom found in walking with God.





Reflection Questions:





    

  • In what areas of your life have you pulled away from God’s guidance, thinking you knew better? How has that impacted you?
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  • How have you experienced God’s loving pursuit, even when you’ve made choices that led you away from divine protection?
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  • How can you create space in your life to listen for God’s guidance and respond, especially in areas where you’ve struggled to trust?
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The Consequence of Rejecting God’s Love





In the sermon, we discussed how judgmentalism leads to storing up wrath, not as punishment, but as the natural result of rejecting God’s love and grace. It’s like trying to run a car without oil—it simply won’t work as intended. God’s kindness, however, is meant to lead us to repentance, inviting us to let go of judgmentalism and turn back to love.





Reflection Questions:





    

  • How have you experienced the consequences of judgmentalism in your own life? How has it impacted your relationships with others and with God?
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  • What might God be inviting you to repent of today? How can God’s kindness lead you to change your mind and heart?
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  • In what ways is God’s love inviting you to move beyond judgmental attitudes and into a deeper experience of God’s grace?
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Receiving God’s Love, Loving Ourselves, and Loving Others





We also explored the importance of receiving God’s love for ourselves before we can truly love others. When we accept God’s love, flaws and all, we begin to see ourselves as beloved children of God. This acceptance enables us to love ourselves and, in turn, to love others more authentically and freely, even those who are difficult to love.





Reflection Questions:





    

  • What practical steps can you take this week to remind yourself of God’s love and extend that same grace to others?
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  • What does it mean for you to love yourself as God loves you? How might this self-love change the way you interact with others?
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  • Who in your life is difficult to love right now? How might receiving more of God’s love for yourself enable you to love that person more genuinely?
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Empathy: The Antidote to Judgmentalism





The sermon highlighted how judgmentalism often stems from our own shame and insecurities. Brene Brown’s insights show us that empathy is the antidote to judgment. By seeing others through the eyes of compassion and understanding their struggles, we can replace judgment with love and connection. This is the kind of transformation that God’s kindness and grace invite us into.





Reflection Questions:





    

  • Think of someone you’ve judged recently. What might they be struggling with that you haven’t considered? How can you show them empathy this week?
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  • Where have you felt judged or misunderstood by others? How has this experience impacted your ability to be empathetic toward them?
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  • What is one concrete way you can show empathy to someone you’ve struggled to understand this week?
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A Call to Transformation





In summary, the sermon invited us to look inward, to recognize where judgmentalism has taken root, and to allow God to transform us. By receiving God’s love, embracing empathy, and breaking down barriers, we can move beyond judgment and live more fully into the love and grace God offers.





Reflection Questions:





    

  • What steps can you take to let go of judgmental attitudes and embrace God’s transformative love?
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  • How can you actively practice empathy and understanding in your daily interactions?
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  • What does it mean for you to participate in God’s healing work in your own life and in the world around you?
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Thoughtful Quotations





“To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you. This is hard. It is perhaps not so hard to forgive a single great injury. But to forgive the incessant provocations of daily life—to keep on forgiving the bossy mother-in-law, the bullying husband, the nagging wife, the selfish daughter, the deceitful son—how can we do it? Only, I think, by remembering where we stand, by meaning our words when we say in our prayers each night, ‘Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those that trespass against us.’”
— C.S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory





“You didn’t think, did you, that just by pointing your finger at others you would distract God from seeing all your misdoings and from coming down on you hard? Or did you think that because he’s such a nice God, he’d let you off the hook? Better think this one through from the beginning. God is kind, but he’s not soft. In kindness he takes us firmly by the hand and leads us into a radical life-change.”
— Eugene Peterson, The Message, Romans 2:3-4







“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.”
— Henri Nouwen, Out of Solitude